What I see a lot of in forums are victims questioning themselves on if they are the Narcissist or not.
First of all, if you have to ask yourself that question .... You're not. The Narcissist in your relationship has played with your head for so long that they have you thinking that you're the crazy Narcissistic one.
Narcissists:Lie
Manipulate
Are verbal abusive
Think they are more attractive than others when it is obvious they aren't
Are vindictive
Think they know it all
Put others down
Think everything is about them
Believe rules do not apply to them
Are not sympathetic to others
Are extremely envious of others
Stalk a targets social media/blogs
Monitor a targets finances
They cheat
They have to be in control of everything
Feel good when they concoct stories of being abused and people feel sorry for them
Need attention
Hack into the emails or iCloud account of a target or others
Feel the need to contact an employer to cause problems for a target
Access the financial information or personal accounts of a target
Monitor a targets credit information
Accuse their target of needing mental help
Feel they need to trash their target to anyone that will listen and on social media/blogs
Have to wreck havoc in a targets life
Accuse the target of stalking or being a Narcissist
Accuse their target of doing things to them when it is the Narcissist that is actually doing it
Falsely accuse a target of abuse and will have them arrested. This is another way of damaging a targets reputation.
The list goes on and on!
The behaviors above are just the tip of the iceberg of what a Narcissist does. They also don't realize that they ALL share the same behaviors. It's like they all learn from the same book. One thing is certain, once you've had to deal with one, you can practically see them coming from a mile away.
